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| www.thebullyproject.com "If it was up to me and I was the king of the United States, I'd make it to where there's no popularity and everyone should be equal, that's how it should be..." -Middle School kid from the Documentary. |
I watched this powerful documentary, extremely moving and touching. It is about a never ending issue with bullying, from generation to generation. Where does the bully learn this that it's OK to pick on someone different or can't fight back...they have to learn that somewhere and that it's OK to do it. The documentary centers on kids in middle school as this is where it can all starts for them and the more powerful effects of mental abuse over physical abuse.
I get so upset because it's like everytime tragedy like this struck people are like "OMG! I can't believe this! What has the world gone to? We need to do something!"
Then more politics, more babysitting, more hand holding. People expect the government, the school, to step in and do something to prevent this. There's only so much you can do, the school isn't the one seeing that person day to day, the school isn't the one who taught that person into the person they are today. The parent is. People say the administration has to keep an eye out and prevent it, but what is the school going to do, in the documentary, the principal can talk to these kids and they'll listen in one ear and out the ear because they don't respect those administrative people. They respect their parents.
My coworker who has an 8 yrs old boy, she raises him alone with the help of her parents, and the kid's pretty normal and respectful. She doesn't strike him, yell at him, threaten him, but she talks to him like an adult and treats him like an adult. He responds to it pretty well. She spends a lot of time with him just talking to him, rather than just treats him like a kid and lets him to do "child like thing" all day.
If I am blessed enough to become a parent, I am going to talk to my kid, spend time with them, treat them like an adult and teach them responsibility of an adult and a value of a life. To understand what you're blessed with, to be appreciative of all things in life is something I think even I forget sometimes. Take some time away from the TV, hang out with the kid, who the F cares who wins the super bowl 2 yrs from now or who won American Idol or the finale of some stupid show. You will remember what your kid drew in 2nd grade or the first time they tell you they respect and cherish you. Important things mann. Make a difference, stop depending on others to raise your kid and put restrictions on their lives because some other bad apples. Let the kids live their lives and treat eachother with respect after you taught them the right thing. Maybe this is why I do enjoy talking to teens and just chillin with them, I don't expect to teach them anything but I just want to show them that hey, everything's cool-we can talk about anything, you can be mad chilled and tolerant as you get older too!
